It's 2020 and racism in America isn't getting better. While it may feel counterintuitive and scary to teach our kids about racism, shielding them from it is complicity. It isn't enough to just not be racist—we have to teach our kids to be anti-racist, which can only be done if we, ourselves, are actively anti-racist.
Mommy Brain is a blog that provides women with the necessary tools to navigate motherhood, and a recent blog post titled "How to Talk to Your Kids About Race and Being Anti-Racist" is exactly what white parents need to read right now.
The post was written by the founder of Mommy Brain, Ravelle Worthington, who believes it's never too early to begin having conversations about racism with kids. In the post, she includes a chart from The Children's Community School, which illustrates a breakdown of how children perceive and think about race. By age 2, most kids use race to choose their playmates. By age 5, they've adopted the racial attitudes of their caregivers.
Ravelle explains why teaching your kids not to "see color" is problematic.
"To say: 'I don't see color' is to ignore the lived experiences of Black/Indigenious People Of Color (BIPOC), turning a blind eye to the bias, racism, and prejudices they experience as a result of the color of their skin," she writes. "It ignores the systems in place that give one skin color enormous privilege over another. By having these conversations with our children we give them the tools to begin to break down these systems and demand change."
These are six actions you can take as a family to actively be ant-racist:
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